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Shahida Arabi Quotes

Total quotes: 100
“I am a motherfucking badass. I can survive anything. And I will thrive.”
— Shahida Arabi, 30 Kickass Affirmations For Going No Contact With An Abusive Narcissist
Tagged: badass, Survivor, H4D-38
“Real love and compassion isn’t about forgiving and forgetting your way through numerous transgressions, violations and betrayals. It’s about being able to let go of the person who would subject you to those in the first place.”
— Shahida Arabi, What Real Love Actually Looks Like, Because It’s Not About Being An Emotional Punching Bag
Tagged: What Real Love Looks Like, Emotional Abuse Isn't Love, Quote of the Moment
“You should’ve known that
This is not a woman
Who fears the wolf.
The wolf fears her.”
— Shahida Arabi, For The Girls Who Do Not Fear Wolves
Tagged: wolves, Poetry, Poems, Poetry Quotes, Rising Again, Resurrection, Resilience, Women Who Defeat Wolves, The Thing Monsters Have Nightmares About
“If you think you're going to have a thoughtful discussion with someone who is toxic, be prepared for epic mindfuckery rather than conversational mindfulness.”
— Shahida Arabi, POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: A Collection of Essays on Malignant Narcissism and Recovery from Emotional Abuse
Tagged: Power Quote Macros
“Within you is a light that is brighter than the belittling words of those who are afraid of your potential. Within you is an entire universe, just waiting to be built.”
— Shahida Arabi, For All The Women Broken By An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Tagged: Emotionally Abusive Relationships, Emotional Abuse Isn't Love, Inspirational, Motivational Life Quotes, Your Divinity, Healing from Toxic Relationships
“In the hands of a malignant narcissist or sociopath, your differing opinions, legitimate emotions and lived experiences get translated into character flaws and evidence of your irrationality.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, Misrepresentation
“You’re actively building yourself up rather than tearing yourself down – and it’s a beautiful thing to witness.”
— Shahida Arabi, 11 Badass Signs You’ve Moved On From Your Narcissistic Ex
Tagged: addictive love, Toxic Love, Healing from Narcissistic Abuse, Moving On, Moving On From An Ex, Narcissistic Abuse
“The thing about women who overthink, overcompensate, overexert their efforts is that they all eventually have an awakening. They all eventually realize what they deserve.”
— Shahida Arabi, This Is When She’ll Leave You – And Never Look Back
Tagged: Shahida New Quote Macros
“Powerful women are the harbingers of truth, of change. They naturally expose the darkness in others by standing firmly in their own light.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Most Powerful Women Are Always The Ones You Don’t See Coming
Tagged: Revolution, Pain and Victory, Chaos, Success, Powerful Women, light and dark, Shahida New Quote Macros, Inspirational
“Accept that you cannot change narcissists – you can only change how you react to them and how much longer you choose to invest in them at the risk of your own sanity.”
— Shahida Arabi, The 3 Biggest Mistakes We Make With Narcissists
Tagged: Myths About Narcissism, Myths About Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Quote Macros
“Victims are then conditioned to seek their abusers for comfort – a form of medicine that is simultaneously the source of the poison.”
— Shahida Arabi, This Powerful Manipulation Method Keeps You Bonded To Your Abuser
“Malignant predators know that a conscientious person will give them the benefit of the doubt, will believe in granting them second chances, and will care about serving the narcissist’s needs even at the expense of their own.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Qualities Malignant Narcissists Look For In Their Victims – And How They Use Them Against You
Tagged: Malignant Narcissism, malignant narcissists, Prey and Predator, Victim and Abuser Dynamic, What Narcissists Look For, How Narcissists Groom Their Targets, Wolves in Sheep's Clothing
“You’re not here to settle. You're not here to bow down to those who give you crumbs. You’re not here to waste time catering to people who couldn’t care less if they destroyed you in the process of getting what they want.”
— Shahida Arabi, Read This If You’re An Old Soul Who Feels Lost
Tagged: Old Souls, Don't Settle, Life Lessons, boundaries, Standards, Quote of the Moment, Shahida New Quote Macros
“Love-bombing is a common manipulation used by cults to control their members – and in a relationship with a narcissist, you become a one-man cult.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love-Bombing Is Crack Cocaine: The Addictive Cycle Of Narcissistic Abuse
Tagged: Love-bombing
“Sometimes the problem is that invisible girls are too visible, too powerful, too fierce. The world likes to box them in to contain them.”
— Shahida Arabi, This Is For The Invisible Girls
Tagged: The Visibility of Women, Marginalized Women, POC Poetry, Poetry, Rape Culture, Arbitrary Beauty Standards, Reclaiming Our Power, Rise Again, Resurrection, Revolution, Revolution Is Coming, Owning Our power, Quote of the Moment, Inspirational
“Trust actions more than empty words and see how someone’s actions communicate who they are, not who they say they are.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Trust, Words, actions, H4D1
“One day in the future there will be the privilege of more awakenings and of more happiness than you can capture in photographs; new growing pains and new first drafts. Rest assured that if you do not give up now, you’ll get to change the course of everything that’s still unwritten.”
— Shahida Arabi, Read This During the Worst Moments Of Your Life
Tagged: Inspirational, Motivational
“Don’t lose hope if your worst nightmares came true in the past or if someone tried to crush your dreams into a pulp in the present – because big dreams can never be destroyed by the small-minded people that were never brave enough to live out their own.”
— Shahida Arabi, Read This During the Worst Moments Of Your Life
Tagged: Inspirational, Motivational
“Closure is only a fairytale, a myth, a legend. The only true closure can come from within...this is a type of love story where the happy ending lies in not finding Prince Charming. Rather, it lies in the realization that he never existed at all.”
— Shahida Arabi, POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse
Tagged: Closure, Fairy tales Gone Wrong, Narcissistic Abuse, Prince Charming, Happy Endings
“It is dangerous to characterize those higher on the spectrum of narcissism as just struggling with self-esteem issues. We are all, as human beings, to an extent, struggling with self-esteem – but most of us do not chronically violate the rights of others as a result.”
— Shahida Arabi, Narcissists Don’t Always Suffer From Low Self-Esteem – Malignant Ones Are Just Entitled
Tagged: The Truth About Narcissism, Malignant Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse, Narcissists, Sense of Entitlement, Self-Esteem
“He spins gravity and twists and turns
Her words until her world is tipped over
Plunging over the edge of its own axis.
In his realm, light is dark and peace is chaos
He creates a dark room for her which she now calls shelter -
comforted in the arms of her murderer.”
— Shahida Arabi, SHE WHO DESTROYS THE LIGHT: Fairy Tales Gone Wrong,
Tagged: She Who Destroys the Light, Poetry, Survivor Poetry, Poems, Gaslighting
“When a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath gaslights you, you may be prone to gaslighting yourself as a way to reconcile the cognitive dissonance that might arise. Two conflicting beliefs battle it out: is this person right or can I trust what I experienced? A manipulative person will convince you that the former is an inevitable truth while the latter is a sign of dysfunction on your end.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, Gaslighting
“Bringing in the opinion, perspective or suggested threat of another person into the dynamic of an interaction is known as “triangulation.” Often used to validate the toxic person’s abuse while invalidating the victim’s reactions to abuse, triangulation can also work to manufacture love triangles that leave you feeling unhinged and insecure.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, triangulation
“The truth is, what feels like your crucifixion doesn’t have any quick fixes, only slow movements in a never ending dance. Time or words alone can’t always soothe the wounds that can’t be put into language. Trauma can speak in a foreign tongue and weave its code into every cell – this is the type of pain where the body and the mind both keep the score.”
— Shahida Arabi, Read This During the Worst Moments Of Your Life
“The difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism is the presence of a personal attack and impossible standards. These so-called critics often don’t want to help you improve, they just want to nitpick, pull you down and scapegoat you in any way they can. Abusive narcissists and sociopaths employ a logical fallacy known as 'moving the goalposts' in order to ensure that they have every reason to be perpetually dissatisfied with you.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, Moving the Goal Posts, Scapegoating
“Toxic and abusive people overstate their ability to be kind and compassionate. They often tell you that you should “trust” them without first building a solid foundation of trust. They may “perform” a high level of sympathy and empathy at the beginning of your relationship to dupe you, only to unveil their false mask later on. When you see their false mask begins to slip periodically during the devaluation phase of the abuse cycle, the true self is revealed to be terrifyingly cold, callous and contemptuous.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, The False Mask
“Gaslighting allows perpetrators to evade accountability for their actions, to deflect responsibility and exercise their control over their partners with alarming ease.”
— Shahida Arabi, Gaslighting(Disturbing Signs An Abuser Is Twisting Your Reality)
Tagged: Gaslighting, Mental Manipulation
“Once a wolf, always a wolf – but you don’t have to remain their sheep.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing: How To Spot A Covert Narcissist And The One Thing That Always Gives Them Away
Tagged: Covert Narcissists, Malignant Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse, Abuse, Wolves in Sheep's Clothing
“This example illustrates something deeply important: groups with one or more sociopaths do not target people who are incompetent. On the contrary, they target those who threaten the status quo in some way.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Narcissistic Conspiracy: Scapegoating, Smear Campaigns And Black Sheep – How Narcissistic Groups Bully Their Chosen Victims
Tagged: Truth-tellers, Conspiraces, Conspiracy, Narcissistic Abuse, Group Bullying, Scapegoating, Black Sheep, Love-bombing, Behavior of Cults, Sociopathic Behavior, Corporate Narcissism, Narcissistic Families, Challenging the Status Quo, Quote of the Moment
“Repression only leads to further depression – bringing these emotional ailments to the surface, however, gives them a greater chance to be exposed to medicine and heal.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Dark Side Of Being An Empath: 5 Powerful Ways The Highly Sensitive Experience The World Differently
Tagged: Repression, Inner Wounds, Healing, expression, Depression, Emotional Validation, Numbing Out The Pain
“A limerent person can suffer from such a hyperfocus on the other person that they begin to lose focus on their own lives and revolve their entire day around interaction with this person.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love Or Limerence? 11 Signs You’re In A Fantasy Relationship
Tagged: Limerence, Love, Obsession, Infatuation, Intimacy, Commitment, Fantasy Relationships
“You find yourself lost in elaborate fantasies about his person, from the typical to the eccentric. Your fantasies tend to have a “heroic” element to them in that you even imagine saving your crush from dangerous situations.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love Or Limerence? 11 Signs You’re In A Fantasy Relationship
Tagged: Limerence, Love, Obsession, Infatuation, Intimacy, Commitment, Fantasy Relationships
“You idealize them and put them on a pedestal. Everything they do, from the awkward to the charming, gets flagged in your mind as evidence that they are a flawless, loveable human being.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love Or Limerence? 11 Signs You’re In A Fantasy Relationship
Tagged: Limerence, Love, Obsession, Infatuation, Intimacy, Commitment, Fantasy Relationships
“Their goal is to distract you with their manipulative tactics so that you’re no longer serving your highest good – instead, you’re catering to their ego, exclusively serving them and their needs.”
— Shahida Arabi, 7 Ways Emotional Vampires Drain Empaths And Highly Sensitive People
Tagged: Emotional Vampires, Highly Sensitive People, Empaths, manipulation tactics, Highest Good
“Deliberately manipulative liars can also reveal their lie more overtly by reacting aggressively or defensively to their victims when called out for their lies.”
— Shahida Arabi, Why Do People Lie? 7 Major Reasons For Deception(And How To Spot A Liar)
Tagged: Why Do People Lie?, Deception, lying, Pathological Lying, Defensiveness
“She’ll leave when she realizes the life that awaits her is more promising than any life you could’ve given her. That any addiction she had to you isn’t worth another hit that might kill her.”
— Shahida Arabi, This Is When She’ll Leave You – And Never Look Back
Tagged: Abusive Relationships, Leaving A Toxic Relationship, Shahida New Quote Macros
“You don’t have a firm grasp on how others feel about you, so, as a result, you try to take back control by micromanaging your relationships.”
— Shahida Arabi, 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent
Tagged: Micromanagement, Taking Control, Social Perception
“Ask yourself on a daily basis, “Am I doing this to please someone else, or because I really want to do this?”
— Shahida Arabi, 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re The Child Of A Narcissistic Parent
Tagged: Children of Narcissistic Parents, People-pleasing, Quote of the Moment
“Malignant narcissists enjoy using your wounds against you. Any vulnerability you reveal to them will be used as ammunition to further terrorize and retraumatize you.”
— Shahida Arabi, POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: A Collection of Essays on Malignant Narcissism and Recovery from Emotional Abuse
Tagged: Power Quote Macros
“A narcissistic abuser can lead survivors to feel depressed, suicidal, anxious, constantly on edge and worthless.”
— Shahida Arabi, POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: A Collection of Essays on Malignant Narcissism and Recovery from Emotional Abuse
Tagged: Narcissistic Abuse
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